I read the Grauniad website today, about Victoria Wood. Apparently she, and lots of others , kept their cancer a secret.
Is this the right thing to do? I lost another day to migraine today, so I had a long time to think about it.
It all depends who she kept it secret from. If it was just secret from the general public, but all her family and friends knew, then I can understand it. After all the press is not exactly well know for restraint and moderation.
Just imagine it: “Hey Victoria, how’s your valiant battle against cancer going” I would feel rather sympathetic to anybody who responded to that query with a two-fingered salute.
But what’s the point of concealing it from family and friends? OK we have a nasty disease, but it’s not contagious. We are different, (some of us have been different for years), but we did not choose this. What has been done that we should be ashamed of?
It’s not as if family and friends won’t guess something is going on. They will know. And how can people give each other comfort if they are not open with each other.
I cannot count how many friends have seen me break down in tears, and every one has given me a hug to show they cared. I have good friends.
I’m glad I’ve been public. It’s a decision I took on the first day.
If we can cry together, we can comfort each other.