Being given the news that your husband has a life threatening illness was not new to me. 40 years ago when my 2 eldest sons were 2 and 1 Malcolm was involved in a very serious road acciddent. He was left with no unbroken ribs and a mangled right leg and paralysed gut. He had a 50/50 chance of surviving. So I had to stay calm for the chilldren and prepare for my life as a widow.
I took over all finances and saw the soliciitor. bank manager and Malcolm’s boss all before lunch the day after the accident and had everything in place just in case. I then held it all togethe for the next 6 months for the sake of the children. Now 3 months ago I faced the same decisions and the same possible outcome in the near future. Panicking is stupid you need to be calm and get all things sorted so you can help the patient. Having the vapours is the last thing any one needs. Hysteria is out! So we had a good cry and made plans. We had a good laugh as that week he was diagnosed we had also completed powers of attorney forms and set out our funeral plans with a reputable company. By the way laughter is very important. So each day is a bonus and each excellent day is a wonderful day.
Am I strong? Not really. I have alot to do with my life both in and outside the home and these keep me sane. ( Do not give up your hobbies if possible and keep to a normal routine when you can) and i have a husband fighting to live and who despite unpredictable moods swings loves me. Yes I need to be strong as I said hystrionics get you nowhere. I could do with a good nights sleep though.
Praying now at St Matthew’s for tonight’s Street Pastor team, all the team members and the town etc.
Praying for both of you now as I read some of your recent posts. It’s really helpful to understand a bit of where you’re up to and what you’re dealing with.
Sending you much love,
Angela xXx
I have read Malcolm’s blog since our email contact a while ago when you mentioned it, laughing and sympathising alternately. It’s easier to know how to pray with more insight. Have kept you firmly before the throne of grace too knowing you’re also ‘in the thick of it’ and doing battle alongside Malcolm. It’s good to hear your perspective which must of necessity be so different to his. You are both an inspiration!
“i have a husband fighting to live and who despite unpredictable moods swings loves me.”
That I understand, after all I’m fighting to live, and I have a wife who despite unpredictable moods swings loves me.